Michael, a husband with ASD, states the following:

Posted by Mark Hutten, M.A.

Michael, a husband with ASD, states the following:

Dear Becky,

I’ve been thinking a lot lately and want to share something on my mind. Sometimes, I feel like I’m not living up to what a good husband should be. I know I see and interact with the world a bit differently, which sometimes makes me feel like I’m coming up short. I see other couples who seem to connect effortlessly, and it makes me feel like I’m failing in comparison.

This isn’t about you—it's about my own struggles. There are days I wish I could join in conversations more easily, understand what’s happening around me, or be more spontaneous. I hate that you feel like you deserve more than I can give. It really hurts to think that my issues might make things harder for you or put some distance between us.

I love you, and your patience and support mean the world to me. I may have my challenges, but I want to work on being the partner you deserve. If I ever seem distant or disconnected, please know it’s not about how I feel for you; it’s just me dealing with my own limitations. I hope we can keep talking openly about what we both need. I’m committed to growing as a person and as your husband.

Thanks for being such a fantastic partner. I truly appreciate everything you do for us and want to do better. Let’s tackle these challenges together.

Sincerely,

Michael J.