What to do when you have formed a strong emotional-attachment to your abuser...

In this article, we will discuss what trauma bonding is and provide some strategies for breaking free from it. If you have been in a relationship where you feel trapped, controlled, or manipulated, this is for you.

Trauma bonding occurs when the victim of abuse forms a strong emotional attachment to their abuser. It can make it incredibly difficult to leave the relationship, even when the abuse is clear. This happens due to a combination of fear, manipulation, and intermittent reinforcement. Understanding the dynamics of trauma bonding is crucial in order to overcome it and move towards healing.

Recognizing the signs of trauma bonding is the first step towards breaking free. These signs may include feeling a strong emotional attachment to your abuser, excusing their abusive behavior, and feeling like you can't live without them. It's important to understand that these feelings are a result of the trauma bonding, not a reflection of your worth or value as an individual.

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The next step in healing from trauma bonding is to establish boundaries. Setting clear boundaries with your abuser is crucial in order to protect yourself and create distance from the toxic relationship. This may involve cutting off contact, seeking support from friends and family, and working with a therapist to develop a safety plan.

Building a support system is essential in the healing process. Surrounding yourself with people who understand and validate your experience can provide the strength and encouragement you need to break free from the trauma bond. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or support groups who can offer you empathy, guidance, and a safe space to heal.

Self-care is another crucial aspect of healing from trauma bonding. Take the time to prioritize your own well-being and engage in activities that bring you joy and peace. This may include practicing mindfulness, engaging in therapy, pursuing hobbies, or participating in support groups. Remember, you deserve to prioritize your own healing and happiness.

Learning about healthy relationships is a necessary step in overcoming trauma bonding. Educate yourself on what a healthy relationship looks like and the red flags to watch out for. This knowledge will empower you to make healthier choices in future relationships and avoid falling back into the cycle of trauma bonding.

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Forgiving yourself is an important step in the healing process. Remember that trauma bonding is not your fault, and it is important to show yourself compassion and understanding. Be patient with yourself as you navigate the complexities of healing, and focus on building a brighter future for yourself.

Remember that healing takes time. Breaking free from trauma bonding is a process, and it's important to be gentle with yourself along the way. Celebrate every small victory and acknowledge the progress you are making. With time, support, and self-care, you can overcome this obstacle and create a life filled with love and happiness.

I understand that trauma bonding can be a challenging experience to go through. It is a complex psychological phenomenon that can cause emotional attachment to someone who has caused harm or trauma. It is often seen in abusive relationships where the victim may feel like they have no choice but to defend the actions of their abuser. 

 It is important to remember that you are not alone and there is help available. Seeking professional support and guidance can be a crucial step towards healing and breaking the cycle of trauma bonding. Please know that I am here to listen and support you in any way that I can.

~ Mark Hutten, M.A.


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